What is it with girls and their constant battle to keep exes as a part of their lives... I have observed this from most of my friends who seem to have exes hovering like mosquitoes in the zimbabwean summer...as for sisters, I seem to have intelligent sisters who will have none of that.

Personally, whether out of insecurity(or whatever other bad word you will find to try to make me seem weak), I am one of those guys who does not like having a girlfriend or potential at that who has an Ex as part of luggage!  the mere nature of the female is already luggage enough for me. and then you will hear the ladies say "oh, but you are such a jealous boyfriend" and "he is so leachy". if my Exes was on my wall whenever they could, in my phone, blowin' my whatsapp( and anything else they could) would your complaint about such make you a jealous nagging girlfriend? or does it show that we both feel the same, but its only a problem when expressed by me...

Why don't I like exes...causes I have been an ex, girls may think guys don't know the effect we have on them but we do know. I know the exact number of phone calls it'll take to get you back.. I know your friend or your cousin so i know what your  current boyfriend is doing wrong, so I know how to look better than him! I don't have to do everything right...just the stuff he is getting wrong.. and that will work wonders. the ex is the perfect tool for blocking progress...i don't know too many relationships that have the ability to go forward with an ex lurking in the background! they haunt relationships the same way worldly spirits haunt the living and prevent progress in their lives.

in this paragraph i will speak for myself! when a girl becomes my ex, i Axe them!! i get them out of my life totally and detox!! this is when you all start whining and making excuses..i can hear you already!! "but how do i just get rid of someone who was part of my life for (whatever number of) years/months/days/minutes?" Look, they are out of your life for a reason, so how about they just stay like that!! we all have relationships that either didn't end properly or ended prematurely for us...and this are the Exes we love to keep around but this are also the most dangerous Exes!! I learnt that lesson when i was 17( yes I've always been a little too deep for my age! read Diary of a geek for the reason). when you lose a good relationship because you were still hung up on someone who truthfully wasn't worth your time..i have been schooled too many times..

now, you tell this to some girls and they seem to honestly think that its not true...i just think girls love playing dumb. The question (from me) becomes, so you know your ex wants you back but you continuously reply his messages, message him first sometimes, take his calls... what's that, some form of back up for when I mess up! I don't believe in relationships with backups... I don't believe in half relationships.. I believe if you're not totally happy, if I CANT make you totally happy...then why are we wasting our time here?

maybe because I'm old school like that and love whole-heartedly...(what am I beginning to sound like Sir Lancelot?).. but I like the whole undivided attention thing you know..love me..i love you ...love each other..no fucking crack-head friends talking crap sorta thing. but that sh*t is hard to find... to find someone who will love you wholly while you do the same..finding love that is something everyone should be glad to get...

i think i have found that relationship...so I'm set..if you're reading this and thinking your relationship ain't there yet...well...here's another lecture for you

*PS. I'm really sorry but i have this terrible habit of editing posts after I've posted them.. I should stop right?? I will